Ah, I did have a chance to talk to my dad. He said that in some states that the legal father of a married woman's baby is always her husband and you can't change it. In other states, you can change this, but you'd have to go to court. He didn't know what kind of state California is.

My personal opinion is to let it be, for the sake of health insurance. You might feel out lawyer friends in California who work with family law in the LGBTQ community to think about legal paternity options for the future.

Wouldn't it be great to have both men be legal daddies?