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pantryslut ([personal profile] pantryslut) wrote2009-04-02 10:13 am
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Just For The Social Record

For the record, I am a good listener and super curious about everything and always want to hear all about it. This is why LJ has been so very good to me.

However, I am also shy, so how/when to ask the questions to start these convos often escapes me.

Sorry.

To top off this little social sundae, I was raised by wolves...er, by graduate students who were too busy raising four kids plus pursuing their theses to actually, you know, have any friends. (At least once they stopped smoking pot.)* So I really have no idea how to make polite conversation. Even sincere polite conversation, much less small talk. I wasn't acculturated into any form or style of interaction. I wasn't acculturated at all...

I'm really good at answering questions, though, if that helps. And no subject of conversation is ever inappropriate around me :)



* Which happened, at my best estimates, around when my brother was born, so I was six. I was young enough and they were circumspect enough that I don't actually have any memories of them indulging, only circumstantial evidence. And a cute anecdote about my dad's hospital intake and my mom's shame, but even that's second-hand.

[identity profile] fattest.livejournal.com 2009-04-02 08:09 pm (UTC)(link)
Shyness is a hard thing all around. I usually figure that people who don't ask questions aren't interested. I guess when I'm the less shy one I need to get better at initiating conversation, rather than letting the silence trigger my own shyness. I suppose another way of saying that is that perhaps I shouldn't take shyness personally. But it's also not easy to know. I suppose having someone announce that they're shy could be my clue. ;)

[identity profile] pantryslut.livejournal.com 2009-04-03 05:16 pm (UTC)(link)
I am one of those people who, when I go into interviews (job or otherwise), makes sure to write down a bunch of questions so I have something to ask. I'm told that this is the solution to small talk as well, and I might just have to try it.

[identity profile] wild-irises.livejournal.com 2009-04-05 05:28 am (UTC)(link)
It's always comforting to find someone else who thinks that "people who don't ask questions aren't interested."