Tentative Divorce Wish List

OK, here is my tentative divorce wish list. Some of you have already offered your help for some of these; I probably haven't been able to reply personally, but I will, and thank you thank you thank you.

Wish list:

* Dinners.

* Company. Come over and hang out with the kids while we job-hunt?

* Free child care.

* A job for me.

* A new job for G.

* Moving boxes.

* Plastic storage containers of various sizes.

* Help sorting, donating and selling excess stuff in our house. (My stuff, not Steven's stuff, fyi.)

I think that's it for now. I will keep this updated as needed. For those who have asked, yes, cash may be helpful down the line when we've figured out our longer-term plans (especially our housing), but right now we're broke but not in the hole. If I need it I'll probably put up an indiegogo-style plea for convenience's sake.

I have an appointment with a tax lawyer. I am working on getting a mediator for the divorce. I have lots of love from friends and relatives. I will keep you all posted on how things are going over here. One day at a time.

Also, a brief divorce FAQ:

What about G.?

G. is still in the picture. If I say more I will turn into a sappy mess of love and gratitude -- he is my rock right now.

What are your plans?

To become financially independent. Therefore, my main energies are going into the job hunt right now.

If you want more specifics, talk to me privately or in person.

How are the children doing?

They miss Uncle Bear Daddy, and Simone especially is sad a lot and cried at school on Friday. But they are doing fairly well overall, considering. Our priority right now is their stability.

How are you doing?

Surprise! I have a lot of physical stress and anxiety-related symptoms right now like loss of appetite, insomnia, racing heartbeat, shakiness, and tightness in the chest. And I feel like I cannot trust the story of my last, oh, 25 years any more, because who knows what parts of it are really true? But also, I feel strangely relieved. Lightened, even.

And, thanks to the outpouring of job leads and well-wishes and general assistance from people, I feel very loved and supported. Thanks, people. And please stay the course with me through the next few months. I'm going to need to lean on you, even if it's just for those hugs.