Sex, Pregnancy, and More

[pantryslut]

Yesterday, many people expressed to G. interest in the details of [his and] my sex life -- specifically, pregnancy and my [/our] sex life.

Which is cool. I'm a sex writer and all. I am happy to share. In fact, I feel a little guilty that I haven't already shared, like I've been holding out on you all. Not my intention :)

But, like you folks, I am curious.

What exactly is it that you'd like to know?

I'm serious. Ask me your burning pregnancy sex questions in the comments below, and I will answer them to the best of my ability. Anonymous is on (screened), so if you're shy but polite, you can go that route.

I'm taking any and all sorts of questions -- from practical details to body quirks to more conceptual queries. 'Dumb' questions, subtle questions, weird questions, nosy questions, blunt questions. Bring 'em on.

Keep in mind, though, that I am not a "pregnancy sexpert" and all answers will be about me, me, me, and my experience only. And, of course, I'm not done yet :), so things may change later.

And, because I love you all and want you to be happy, I will also share my general impressions in an ongoing fashion without any specific prompts from here on out.

And I will probably put it behind cuts for the squeamish... ;)

OK? Go!

Comments

I'll go!

[upstart-crow.livejournal.com]

With the caveat, of course, that 1) I've never had heterosexual intercourse and 2) never plan on being pregnant.

I didn't even know that pregnancy sex was possible, or at least advisable. How far into a pregnancy can a woman have actual intercourse before it's considered unsafe? Is there a time limit at all?

Re: I'll go!

[rednfiery.livejournal.com]

hey, i can answer this! (i hope that's ok, pantryslut.)

theoretically, assuming a pregnancy with no complications, a pregnant woman can have sex throughout pregnancy. when the cervix begins to dilate, though, that's when my doctor says "no mas" because of the potential for infection(?).

honestly, i was super horny during all of my pregnancies, but by the time i got into the last month sex was nothing but a memory -- too big, too tired, too cumbersome, not feeling sexual at all by then.

Re: I'll go!

[nitouche.livejournal.com]

I don't think there's much potential for infection as long as the amniotic sac is intact. On the other hand, semen contains a whole lot of prostaglandins, which are the first thing used to induce labour (they soften the cervix). This is actually very useful information when you're about due and very, very tired of being pregnant :)

Re: I'll go!

[rednfiery.livejournal.com]

yeah, i put the question mark after the "potential for infection" bit because i couldn't remember WHY (my) doctors and nurses all recommended against sex once the cervix begins to dilate.

i definitely know about the power of semen to soften the cervix, but i've gotta say that even though i was always very very tired of being pregnant by that last month, i still wasn't into sex as a way of moving things along! :)

Re: I'll go!

[nitouche.livejournal.com]

I think the whole last month is designed to make us eager for labour to come on and start already.

I still think I actually slept better the month after S was born than the month before -- I'd rather be woken up by external causes than hydraulic pressure and charley-horses!

Sorry, Lori -- back to sex talk!
:)

Re: I'll go!

[badgerbag.livejournal.com]

So bogus of doctors when they often insist on "checking the cervix" which actually *does* have a risk of infection.

what a lot of men don't know about...

[bucky-sinister.livejournal.com]

the amniotic sac...

a lot of guys think the fetus is just hanging out in there, and are afraid of
1) Their penis touching the fetus/hurting the fetus by slamming their penis into it.
or
2) ejaculating on the fetus.

really. until we specifically learn about the female anatomy, it's really a big mystery where everything is. I thought this when I was old enough to know what sex was but still young enough to not understand anatomy...but yet many men never learn the basics, even as adults.

fyi

Re: what a lot of men don't know about...

[genderfur.livejournal.com]

Um. You make it sound as though a lot of men don't know about the *uterus*. And that may very well be true; I wouldn't know. One of the nice things about being a dyke who still enjoys sex with men is that I know enough to be *really*picky*and*demanding*. I won't put up with crappy sex because I know I can get better... and as a consequence, I tend to have knowledgeable partners.

Re: what a lot of men don't know about...

[(Anonymous)]

That's exactly what I'm saying. The whole anatomy is a mystery.

[whittles.livejournal.com]

How has your sex drive changed?

You talked about orgasms being different, can you explain?

Are certain positions more comfortable now than they were before or vice versa?

Do the babies react to you guys having sex? Does it calm them or make them more rowdy?

[oracne.livejournal.com]

Have certain positions changed in their comfort level, post-pregnancy?

[fightingtiger.livejournal.com]

Have the types of sex and/or play you want changed with your pregnancy? If so, how?

[(Anonymous)]

I discovered that orgasms can have the effect of starting labor, even if no semen is involved. "Traditional" intercourse (i.e., involving penetration) is not particularly comfortable during the final month, but that doesn't rule out other things. Why else, after all, did the goddess gave men tongues?