As pantryslut noted below, this is an intersectionality issue, and one that black women -- cis or trans -- get in spades, because none of us "obviously" adhere to societal expectaions of feminine gender presentation. We all get assumed queer because of the way we look, unless we go to extreme lengths to alter our natural appearance (e.g. straightened hair), exaggerate our cissexual behavior, etc. Some of us get kind of pissy about that assumption, because it happens too often, and it comes from both obnoxious straight cisgendered white people and from well-intentioned queer white people who mean it as a compliment -- a la the ad mentioned in the OP, and you in the comment here.
Obviously you didn't mean to touch on that history, but you did, which is why I pointed it out. And obviously you didn't realize it was annoying (despite pantryslut noting her own annoyance with same), but it is, which is why I sound hostile. Telling me to watch my tone really doesn't help matters.
And as this isn't my blog and I doubt Lori wants a fight here, I'll stop here and get back to writing.
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Date: 2010-05-18 12:32 am (UTC)As
Obviously you didn't mean to touch on that history, but you did, which is why I pointed it out. And obviously you didn't realize it was annoying (despite
And as this isn't my blog and I doubt Lori wants a fight here, I'll stop here and get back to writing.