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Would you be insulted if I told you the first thought I had upon reading the news was, "I'm so glad they're breeding!"

Nope :)

Who is Steven? I didn't know there was a third, I think I've only really seen you and G. out together. Do you keep him locked in the basement of or something?

Steven (aka [livejournal.com profile] imnotandrei) is my legal husband and longest-term partner. I think it's mostly coincidence that you (in particular) haven't met him; he was at the last Queer Open Mic, for example, and if I had known you didn't know each other I would have introduced you. It's true he is more of a homebody than G. or me, and he tends to stay away from dance clubs, big parties, and the marches, partly due to ADD overwhelmitude. You'll see him more often at readings, small parties, and things like that. Also, of course, if you come to any social occasion at my house, he'll be there, b/c we are a three-adult household.

I would like to take a nap with you. Can this be arranged? Because you would look awfully cute in a napping, puppy pile with me.

Yes, I think this can be arranged. :)

What do you want your parental title to be? And G. and Steven? Do you have a particular affinity or aversion to the usual Mom/Mama/Mommy/etc.?

I'm perfectly comfortable with "Mom/Mommy." I am willing to entertain more creative variations, however.

I think G. is happy with "Dad/Daddy." He might not be as amenable to embellishment :)

Steven wants to be known as "Bear Daddy" or "Uncle Bear Daddy."

How old are you? Was it difficult to get pregnant? Why do you want to have kids? What do you envision your parenting style will be, other than obviously AWESOME?

I'm 37. It took a long time, over a year, to get pregnant, and I was actually just beginning treatment for infertility when I got knocked up (I was doing my Clomid resistance test -- thus, twins. My last obs/gyn appointment was scheduled to be about discussing my blood test results, but, um, something came up. My blood tests, btw, were absolutely normal).

I'm one of those people who has always wanted kids. Not in a "because that's what you do when you're an adult" kind of nonreflective way, but in a more concrete way. I've done day care, I've babysat, I have several younger siblings and cousins that I watched growing up, and I can't explain it better than that I just knew I wanted a chance to see the process of raising up an entire person through. Also, you know, I want a chance to raise kids in my community and family structure. It's one I'd like kids to grow up in, and I have the ovarian resources to do it...

Also, I really wanted to experience the biological process of pregnancy. Not because I am some Earth Mother type (ha!), but more in a weird biology sort of way. Like a mad scientist, experimenting on myself.

I don't really know what my parenting style will be like -- or, maybe I have a sense of it, but don't know how to describe it. I am a big believer that kids are resilient and adaptable, and I have a feeling I will tend toward benign neglect once they're mobile and all. There's a reason I wanted multiple adults in a parenting role -- I want someone to hand off to so I can go write or read a book or take a nap in the garden. And I expect I will be encouraging a high degree of autonomy. Which should be fun when teenagerdom comes. :P

We are still discussing who gets to be good cop and who gets to be bad cop. We will probably alternate. Steven is permanently excused from the role and gets to be indulgent uncle instead.

But mostly, I am willing to figure it out as I go along.

Date: 2008-03-11 05:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mckennl.livejournal.com
I don't have any questions, just CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Very exciting!

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