I know, this one's going to be chronic.
Apr. 29th, 2008 09:42 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pantryslutYesterday, a teaser ad for an upcoming news story: "How to make your kids as fit as they can be" (about knee injuries, not fat, btw).
Today, an LJ comment about how every parent should teach their daughters self-defense instead of instilling "the culture of fear."
I can't *make* my (still potential!) kids fit. And I can't *make* 'em reject fear culture. Because you know what? I am not actually in control of all their input. (And if I tried, that would be creepy and abusive, thx.) Not even close. I am important, but I am not the determining factor of their attitudes and behaviors.
Nor is it an indication of "hard wiring" if I try to teach them one thing and they prefer another instead. You know these are autonomous beings, right? And sometimes they will choose something for other reasons than a) it's built in or b) parental or guardian unit said so?
No?
Then go away. I don't want to talk to you.
Today, an LJ comment about how every parent should teach their daughters self-defense instead of instilling "the culture of fear."
I can't *make* my (still potential!) kids fit. And I can't *make* 'em reject fear culture. Because you know what? I am not actually in control of all their input. (And if I tried, that would be creepy and abusive, thx.) Not even close. I am important, but I am not the determining factor of their attitudes and behaviors.
Nor is it an indication of "hard wiring" if I try to teach them one thing and they prefer another instead. You know these are autonomous beings, right? And sometimes they will choose something for other reasons than a) it's built in or b) parental or guardian unit said so?
No?
Then go away. I don't want to talk to you.
