pantryslut

Today at the "parents coffee date" for the first day of school, I learned that I am not the only parent who really disliked Joan A. Friedman's Emotionally Healthy Twins. Both of us felt like she was projecting a lot of her childhood frustrations as an identical twin onto the pages of the book -- Friedman basically insists on SEPARATE EVERYTHING AS MUCH AND AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE, which is economically unfeasible for lots of folks, just as a starting point. I mean, occasional solo play dates is one thing (and I agree, very healthy). You Must Give Them Different Bedrooms, hold up. There are plenty of ways to honor twins' individuality and need to differentiate on a smaller scale.

In contrast, I was pleased to realize this week that one of the consequences of G. and I having very close birthdays and, thus, combined birthday parties year after year is that it normalizes combined parties for the kids. Hooray unintended beneficial consequences!

(Side note to

elusis and reminder to self: I think this falls into the category of developmental advice I chose to ignore.)