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mslashes asks:

"How would you manage time/emotions etc while being in love with two different people? Are there some things that you would just keep private (as opposed to secret, which I feel can be unhealthy) How would you deal/react if one partner became jealous of the time spent with another, or the bruises given by another? Yeah I know jealousy is a bad word, but I am trying to keep it real."

Mostly, at the moment, I talk a lot and play it by ear. Right now, I'm the jealous one :), and I haven't really had to deal with my other partners' jealousy in the same way. I try to forestall it by talking about time plans and dates and such beforehand; I check in a lot, in other words. And that's been working well so far. How would I deal with it if it suddenly became an issue? I don't know, I'll see when I get there, I guess.

The privacy question is interesting. I do think that there's a lot that goes on between Steven (my hubby) and I that I keep private. We have a long history together, and it's hard to share that with other people in any meaningful way anyway. But there's nothing in particular that I stake out with a big "KEEP OUT" sign or anything. Again, I tend to mostly play it by ear.

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