three other thoughts on the dinner party

[pantryslut]

1) I think I like little foods more than big foods, and so a cocktail-style party with scrumptious nibbles is more my speed.

2) Also, I am bashful. I like to be the facilitator of a good time at parties, but not so much the central focus. Please don't focus on my food or the me that made the food. Just eat and enjoy.

3) Also also, I don't mind if people hang around while I cook. I get the sense that's all supposed to happen off-stage at a dinner party.

Comments

[beckastar.livejournal.com]

i like the nibble notion very much. finger foods are scrumptious.

the food kind of dinner party (as opposed to the sort with decorated vulvic platters) was my favorite thing when i had recently arrived and was trying to be social. i got to host, cook, feed people, and hide in the kitchen whenever i felt the need to not be around newish people. best of all worlds.

[debbieann.livejournal.com]

just eat and enjoy, I can do that! we just have people over, no "dinner parties"

[pantryslut.livejournal.com]

I plan on having many people over often.

btw, I just found out the transbay bus stops like three blocks from my new place.

One person's thoughts, quite possibly idiolect rather than standard

[redbird]

To my mind, a dinner party is a party that includes, probably focuses around, everyone--hosts and guests--sitting down to a meal and conversation together. The kind of food doesn't matter, but something more like a cocktail party is, well, a cocktail party or just a party, not a dinner party as such. Putting the same variety of small foods and such on a buffet table for everyone to select from, then eat together, would be a dinner party--it's the sitting around that matters, not what kind of food there is.

People hanging around the kitchen is nonstandard, but wouldn't make something not-a-dinner-party, so long as they all went in and sat down with everyone else when it was time to eat. Note--"everyone" definitely means the people holding the party and their guests. If someone hired a caterer, or sent for a large quantity of takeout food, the caterer or delivery person wouldn't usually sit at the table with everyone else.

[black-pearl-10.livejournal.com]

"2) Also, I am bashful. I like to be the facilitator of a good time at parties, but not so much the central focus. Please don't focus on my food or the me that made the food. Just eat and enjoy."

That what I'm there for.
I make people run to imnotandrei for actual intellectual conversation.

"3) Also also, I don't mind if people hang around while I cook. I get the sense that's all supposed to happen off-stage at a dinner party."

Placing the snacks in the kitchen will solve that.

[jennconspiracy.livejournal.com]

mmm... snacks!

happy to help by bringing some vegan dishes...