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pantryslut(still extremely rough, and where are we going, exactly?)
Fat girls and shoes. If you're a fat girl, you already know about shoes. If you're not fat, maybe this is still a secret. An open one. Want stellar shoe advice? Ask a fat girl. Fat girls are into shoes in a crazy fabulous way. Fat girls are into shoes because most fat girls can still wear shoes. They can go shoe shopping with their best girl friends and some home with something fabulous, instead of standing by the dressing room door while everyone else gets to try something on. I am not the first to say this, nor am I the best, but trust me: fat girls and shoes have a special relationship.
A pair of great shoes, like lipstick in just the right shade, can dress up any outfit.
I saw an old friend, a fabulously stylish fat girl, and she told me that her doctor had ordered her out of high heels. If she were a man, she would have said she felt emasculated by her (still stylish) flats. As it was, she waved her hands in the air and said "you know what I mean? Shoes were all I had left!"
You have to understand that my history is different. You have to understand that I have always worn sensible shoes. You have to understand that femininity has always been a foreign territory for me. I have always been locked out of that kingdom. I am gender aphasic,. It's all a jumble of meaningless cues. It's a foreign language, and I have always been bad at every language but my own.
Fat girls and shoes have a special relationship. Except when "girl" is in question, that is.
Fat girls and shoes. If you're a fat girl, you already know about shoes. If you're not fat, maybe this is still a secret. An open one. Want stellar shoe advice? Ask a fat girl. Fat girls are into shoes in a crazy fabulous way. Fat girls are into shoes because most fat girls can still wear shoes. They can go shoe shopping with their best girl friends and some home with something fabulous, instead of standing by the dressing room door while everyone else gets to try something on. I am not the first to say this, nor am I the best, but trust me: fat girls and shoes have a special relationship.
A pair of great shoes, like lipstick in just the right shade, can dress up any outfit.
I saw an old friend, a fabulously stylish fat girl, and she told me that her doctor had ordered her out of high heels. If she were a man, she would have said she felt emasculated by her (still stylish) flats. As it was, she waved her hands in the air and said "you know what I mean? Shoes were all I had left!"
You have to understand that my history is different. You have to understand that I have always worn sensible shoes. You have to understand that femininity has always been a foreign territory for me. I have always been locked out of that kingdom. I am gender aphasic,. It's all a jumble of meaningless cues. It's a foreign language, and I have always been bad at every language but my own.
Fat girls and shoes have a special relationship. Except when "girl" is in question, that is.
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Date: 2007-02-09 12:39 am (UTC)(otherwise, i'm totally with you. i am secretly totally in love with shoes, but because i have such big feet, i don't really get to exercise that love.)
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Date: 2007-02-09 12:41 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-02-09 12:44 am (UTC)i like it and i strongly identify and strongly don't identify. i caught the Tall Girl complex.
Tall Girl's relationship to shoes is the Fat Girl's relationship to clothes -- they don't fit. But Tall Girl knows clothes and style and works them because she stands out and needs to compensate for the insecurities that come with being taller than men.
Tall Girl and clothes have an extra special relationship. Except when "girl" is in question, that is.
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Date: 2007-02-09 12:51 am (UTC)"I am gender aphasic."
Date: 2007-02-09 12:50 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-02-09 08:04 am (UTC)I have always said that if my feet were not so large, I would be a total shoe slut. I am a Birkenstock girl with the heart of Imelda Marcos.