Answers To Your Questions
Aug. 16th, 2007 09:22 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pantryslut1. Will you hit *me* with one of your shiny new toyz from the flea?
Yes.
2. Were you born with confidence, or did you have to work for it? If the latter, describe.
Only my hairdresser knows for sure. (Maybe it's Maybelline.)
The thing is, I don't consider myself a particularly confident person. (Stop laughing.) I consider myself pretty average in that department. Pretty realistic. Balanced. All that stuff.
But I'm also kind of immune to the "OMG, what will other people think?!" problem. I was watching Akeelah and the Bee last night, and every time Akeelah said she didn't want to do the spelling bee because "people will think I'm a freak," I would reply (aloud, sorry G.), "they already think you're a freak, so it doesn't matter." If you're going to be teased and despised no matter what course of action you take, you learn to make your own choices.
It's beginning to dawn on me that I had kind of a rough childhood in terms of teasing, btw.
Anyway. I didn't "work for it," but I have worked on it. I have tremendous stage fright, for example, even now. But I want people to hear my words and buy my books and stuff, so I go out and read (and sing karaoke???) anyway. I've learned to give my anxieties their own playground and not let them interfere so much with my actual actions. Except when my throat clenches up on stage and I suddenly have a mouse of a head voice, singing-wise. Never mind.
Succinctly: I've learned to acknowledge (and honor) my fears and anxieties and do what I want to do anyway. In that sense, I "worked for it." It doesn't feel like work, though. It wasn't hard. It comes pretty naturally to me.
Make sense?
Any more questions? Comments are screened, anonymous is on. I'll keep doing this until I'm tired or nobody has anything to ask me any more.
Yes.
2. Were you born with confidence, or did you have to work for it? If the latter, describe.
Only my hairdresser knows for sure. (Maybe it's Maybelline.)
The thing is, I don't consider myself a particularly confident person. (Stop laughing.) I consider myself pretty average in that department. Pretty realistic. Balanced. All that stuff.
But I'm also kind of immune to the "OMG, what will other people think?!" problem. I was watching Akeelah and the Bee last night, and every time Akeelah said she didn't want to do the spelling bee because "people will think I'm a freak," I would reply (aloud, sorry G.), "they already think you're a freak, so it doesn't matter." If you're going to be teased and despised no matter what course of action you take, you learn to make your own choices.
It's beginning to dawn on me that I had kind of a rough childhood in terms of teasing, btw.
Anyway. I didn't "work for it," but I have worked on it. I have tremendous stage fright, for example, even now. But I want people to hear my words and buy my books and stuff, so I go out and read (and sing karaoke???) anyway. I've learned to give my anxieties their own playground and not let them interfere so much with my actual actions. Except when my throat clenches up on stage and I suddenly have a mouse of a head voice, singing-wise. Never mind.
Succinctly: I've learned to acknowledge (and honor) my fears and anxieties and do what I want to do anyway. In that sense, I "worked for it." It doesn't feel like work, though. It wasn't hard. It comes pretty naturally to me.
Make sense?
Any more questions? Comments are screened, anonymous is on. I'll keep doing this until I'm tired or nobody has anything to ask me any more.
