Since it's that time of year anyway.

[pantryslut]

Question inspired by someone on my friend's list:

What sorts of things -- gestures, presents, occasions, etc. -- do you consider romantic? Why?

I will give my answers in a later post. You first.

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Never thought about it before...

[fightingtiger.livejournal.com]

I saw an article today from MarketWatch called “From the heart: Valentines that will aid your love life and social conscience.” The most accessible thing they suggested was a donation. Or you can buy your baby a $38,000 Special Edition 2008 C350 Sport Sedan, complete with 268-horsepower and 3.5 liter V-6 engine. I wouldn’t turn one down if it was offered, but I’d know that that person didn’t know dick about me.

I agree with the general theme—something that shows they were paying attention at some point. They don’t even have to nail it perfectly; just get in the zone. More specifically…

Something made or grown by the giver or a journey:
Words talking about something special that I might not know about, extra points if homemade card. Being taken to a pretty place. Extra points if we can get there without gasoline. A plant. I like to read the things that people think but rarely say. Going to beautiful places lets me see it a little more from the giver's perspective and that helps me understand them more. I treasure those kinds of memories, much, much more than a car.

Things that help me back into my body:
Body butter, sexy pictures, a sexy story, being read to, nude beaches, hot tubs/saunas, dinner (buffalo wings, crispy duck, praline pecan or chocolate amaretto ice cream, steak with A1 and baked potato), nice smelling herbs, body work, a variety of kinky things, almost any music, workshops on topics of mutual interest. When I’m actually in my body I’m much more likely to be able to feel a range of things instead of my rather tiresome sense of duty, or futility, or undesired pain, or any of those other things that distract from the blessing of excellent company.

(Except for far away lovers who are totally ok to send racy emails or video or whatever, 'cause they’re far and coordinating shipping/ money/ timing can be difficult, I know.)