Just For The Social Record

[pantryslut]

For the record, I am a good listener and super curious about everything and always want to hear all about it. This is why LJ has been so very good to me.

However, I am also shy, so how/when to ask the questions to start these convos often escapes me.

Sorry.

To top off this little social sundae, I was raised by wolves...er, by graduate students who were too busy raising four kids plus pursuing their theses to actually, you know, have any friends. (At least once they stopped smoking pot.)* So I really have no idea how to make polite conversation. Even sincere polite conversation, much less small talk. I wasn't acculturated into any form or style of interaction. I wasn't acculturated at all...

I'm really good at answering questions, though, if that helps. And no subject of conversation is ever inappropriate around me :)



* Which happened, at my best estimates, around when my brother was born, so I was six. I was young enough and they were circumspect enough that I don't actually have any memories of them indulging, only circumstantial evidence. And a cute anecdote about my dad's hospital intake and my mom's shame, but even that's second-hand.

Comments

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

I've told you this before, and I'm not telling you looking for strokes, but I've always assumed you didn't like me, which to be honest, is okay with me if it's true, though if it's not true, I wouldn't mind knowing that, either. (And I'm also aware that the truth is likely to be anything from "pantryslut doesn't like me" to "I'm hopelessly self-involved and she doesn't think anything about me one way or the other" to "She's shy and quiet and would talk to me if she could think of what to say" to any number of other things. But seeing that I AM self-involved, I usually go for the explanation that's all about me me me first. Which in turn reminds me of when my therapist once told me that paranoia and megalomania were two sides of the same coin, in which the sufferer was convinced that people in this world actually bothered to spend time thinking about her at ALL.)

[pantryslut.livejournal.com]

Nah. If I really disliked you, I wouldn't bother reading your journal -- honestly, I have better things to do with my time, like raise twins :) But that also cuts the other way, if you see what I mean.

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Yeah. In my misspent yute, I couldn't imagine liking someone who I perceived as not liking me much, but I got over it. And I like you for reasons entirely having nothing to do with our interactions, which have been minimal over the years. (Things like your politics, your parenting, your writing...)